Redefining Success: The Value of Please and Thank You, Setting Limits, and Non-negotiables.

My husband and I made an appointment at the bank recently to discuss options for refinancing our mortgage.  Our children are 6, 8, and 11; do we get a babysitter for an hour-long meeting? Instead of arranging for a sitter, we had each child bring a couple of activities of their choice that they could do quietly and individually while we met with a bank officer.  My two older kids brought a chapter book and summer math packet, and the youngest brought “The Peg Game”, a classic wooden peg and board solitaire game.  They sat in comfy couch chairs in the center of the bank while we met with a bank officer in a cubicle space to the side.

After a half an hour, my husband checked in on them.  They were happily occupied.  We ended up being there for over an hour and received compliments about how polite and well-behaved our children were in the waiting area for so long, especially occupied with activities that do not involve an electronic screen.  While I appreciated the kind words, it got me thinking:  Continue reading “Redefining Success: The Value of Please and Thank You, Setting Limits, and Non-negotiables.”